Tuesday, May 3, 2011

Have You Ever Felt...

Like there was a person in your life that you just couldn't please, no matter how hard you tried? 

Do you just make yourself sick over trying to meet their "expectations" but still fall short and end up making it worse because you've over-extended yourself? 

Do you walk around on eggshells and make yourself crazy over it? 

I do...


This person happens to be not only my boss - but my friend. 

She was my friend before becoming my boss - and I'm afraid that the work relationship has effectively ruined the friendship. 

Which is rather unfortunate... 

But from this point on I've decided that I will do what's right, as she's made it clear that our friendship isn't as highly valuable to her as her position within our company. 

I've lost far too much sleep - and I'm not quitting MY job over her. 

But from this point on I am going to let it go.

She can "expect" whatever she wants. Her "expectations" and her ideals exceed reality - and when your expectations exceed reality, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. And that? 
That's just real.



  1. this is unfortunate heather. i'm sorry that you have been put in this position. i wish you the best of luck in this situation and i am just a google chat away if you EVER need anything ;)

  2. Dude, this sucks. I can't imagine how much this must suck for you. Especially since this person's a friend. Not a fair situation at all. Hang in there, my friend.

  3. It is hard to work with/for friends. My husband recently found that out. Sorry you have to deal with this.

  4. Oh Gosh --- I can relate to this entire post! Don't let other people get the best of you - especially with your job, it is hard enough without this added stress! xo

  5. Oh hell yeah I've done it. I'm raised it to an artform...bordering on the martyr-syndrome. And in my many decades of self depreciation I've discovered one truth. And it wasn't easy to swallow...this pearl of wisdom, but it's this: They are not wrong for doing all the pressure stuff on us. We are wrong for letting them. You've taken the first greatest step to stopping the madness. You realize that you can't please some people. And that those same people will take your hard work and kindness as a weakness. And they will find a way to profit from it. If you let go of her coattail, you may find talent that you didn't know you had. You may even surpass her. But if that starts to happen....be ready for part 2. I'll be here when you need support with that stage. (I have ALL the t-shirts in my closet)

    Good luck


  6. aw man, I have someone like that too! I admire your strength!


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